Ridiculous things my ex said to me

Some are translated from Chinese and may not be exact as I only remember the gist of it.

Ex: Will you take care of me, spoil me, love me?
Me: Yes I will take care of you, spoil you, love you.

Ex: I feel like you don't love me.
[Note that this was only the third time we met]
Me: Why?
Ex: I don't know
Me: I don't feel as close to you in person... Give it some time

Ex: Will you spend your money on me or will you leave me to fend for myself?
Me: I will spend my money on you.

Ex: Will you help me with my tuition questions?
Me: I will, if I have time.

Me: Will you mind not having a wedding?
Ex: Don't want
Ex: It's a once in a lifetime thing
Me: So many people get divorced
Ex: Why marry if you get divorced

Ex: I want to move to the US
Ex: I can get a better career there
Ex: Singapore is such a bad place
Ex: The government, you say something wrong and you get arrested
Ex: Companies here are so inefficient
Me: ...

Ex: Why you never hold my hand
Me: Because I shy

Ex: Why you never hold me
Me: [Holds]

Ex: Why you write letter to my mum
Ex: You're the first guy who ever did

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Actually sounds quite normal right? Out of context they don't sound alarming... But take into consideration she has a load of mental issues, and she brought nothing to the table. She wasn't good at all: short, quick-tempered, childish, naggy, unhappy, damaged beyond repair. Self-entitled despite claiming she has an inferiority complex.

I was too nice to her... And I was genuine about it, too. It could have gone this way:

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Ex: Will you take care of me, spoil me, love me?
Me: Not until you've proven that you aren't just using me.
Me: What do I get in return? What do you do for me?

Ex: I feel like you don't love me.
[Note that this was only the third time we met]
Me: Why?
Ex: I don't know
Me: That's because you don't actually love me. How do you expect to feel loved if you can't love? You never seem happy to see me, and you never laugh at anything I say. You always give me that fake smile. Love comes from within, you dumbass. How do you expect to be loved if you don't love?

Ex: Will you spend your money on me or will you leave me to fend for myself?
Me: Why should I spend all my money on you? You haven't even proven that you wouldn't leave me just like the first time. What do I get in return for spending money on you? Are you an escort? You brought nothing to the table. I gave so much of my time and resources for you. Shouldn't you be the one spending money on me? How about you actually split the bill and not expect me to pay all of the time?

Ex: Will you help me with my tuition questions?
Me: Why should I? It's your job and I have my own life too. I will help you if I have time but how can you expect me to be at your beck and call? I'm not your fucking maid.

Me: Will you mind not having a wedding?
Ex: Don't want
Ex: It's a once in a lifetime thing
Me: So many people get divorced
Ex: Why marry if you get divorced
Me: Because of people like you who can't commit. Why do you think you deserve a wedding?

Ex: I want to move to the US
Ex: I can get a better career there
Ex: Singapore is such a bad place
Ex: The government, you say something wrong and you get arrested
Ex: Companies here are so inefficient
Me: You fucking sheltered girl. Do you know how fortunate you are? And there you are, complaining about all your issues. The problem is you!

Ex: Why you never hold my hand
Me: Why the heck must we hold hands all the time? And why don't you hold my hand instead of complaining about it? Why must I do everything? What have you done to deserve it?

Ex: Why you never hold me
Me: Why you only complain

Ex: Why you write letter to my mum
Ex: You're the first guy who ever did
Me: Of course I did because I was genuinely worried about you. You really expect me to do nothing after sending a cold breakup message so suddenly on my birthday? What a kid. How about you grow up? You blocked me everywhere and left me no choice. What a sadist. I'm sorry, not to you but to myself for actually caring for a cold person like you.

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Anyway, I'm glad that I was nice to her because she probably wouldn't be able to handle the truth. What a broken person. Seriously, she is quite fortunate. Has a proper family, has proper meals, lives in condo. And yet she created so many issues for herself. What a dumb girl. This is a lesson that you should never take things for granted.

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